Which stage of Expression are you in? Good Girl / Rebel / Soul
“ In the journey to true soul expression, we often move through different stages of relational healing until we arrive at true soul expression. It’s not linear - it’s likely we will bounce around moving between the different stages - but it IS likely you’ll be in one of them more often then another. ”
~ Nicole Barton
Three Stages of Soul Expression - for Magical Business
These are three common ones that filter into the way we relate:
1. Good Girl 🌻 - “I can’t express who I really am - I can’t share my magic, because people will think I’ve gone mad, I’d better hide my crystals in case someone judges me, I’m scared to tell people about my services, maybe I’ll just work with ‘science’ + something a bit more logical, instead of the magic I know I’m here for. What if I’m judged or rejected for expressing the weird things I like? What if I’m booed off stage? I fear being too much. I have a lot of wisdom, but I can’t share it publicly because others might feel bad. Do I need to share my story? People pleasing is hard. I don’t want to freak anyone out - I’d better just keep my real life secret - I’ve not posted in a year online anyway. And if I did, I’d probably say the wrong thing, and end up being misunderstood and probably cancelled. I don’t want to be ex-communicated and alone.”
2. Rebel🐯 - “I’ve fully healed my self-expression, woohoooooo - finally - I’m riding a wild tiger, and shimmying my fat ass at anyone who doesn’t like it. F^ck yooouuuuuu if you don’t like my magic, I’m wearing a goddamn crown and I’m the Queen of Expression. If people don’t like me, that’s their problem. I’m not going to run around pleasing other people anymore, I’m here to live my life - and if they don’t like it, then whatever! If they don’t honour me at my worst, they don’t deserve me at my best - it’s all their fault! I’m going to share my wildest experiences online, and show up sobbing my heart out - I don’t care if I get cancelled. I’ll just keep others at arm’s length - I don’t trust others at all. I certainly don’t need a Guide to help me with my business.”
3. Soul🌹 - “I’ve seen there’s a third way to be that moves beyond the Good Girl and the Rebel (oh my does it feel juicier than either of those - that felt horrible in my body!). I have finally learned to heal + integrate a new way of being that allows me to soften, open, and fully express my raw truth, but from a deeply honouring, gracious + powerful place of ownership of what’s truly mine - and from deep open-heartedness + love. I see that if I’m in Good Girl I’m suppressed, and if I’m in Rebel, I’m armouring - and now, when I feel contraction around my expression, I hear my inner child’s needs, tend my nervous system, acknowledge + love myself in my shadow + tune into the deeper signals of my soul to know what to express. I trust my soul’s expression to be true - to guide me - even when it’s asking the impossible of me.”
Which stage of ‘Soul Expression’ are you in?
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Nicole x
