Why we do the work... Reason #2: Family
“Choosing the work is the least 'self-indulgent' thing we can do: it's life-transforming for *all* of those we touch, and especially our families. It's the best investment I've ever made - and by far the biggest ever reward of it all. “
- Nicole Barton
"Why we do the work" - Reason #2 - FAMILY 👩❤️👨👩🏼🍼
I often hear women fearing that the 'deep work' of becoming a healer will be judged as 'selfish' - and this can be something that stops us choosing it fully. Recently, I've been contemplating all the reasons the deep work of healing and becoming healers is actually necessary - (aka the very opposite) - and there are so many reasons.
I'm devoted to sharing a mini series about all the reasons why this work is actually *vital* in a society where it's deemed to be 'self-indulgent'. (See reason #1 in an earlier post.)
Reason #2 - FAMILY ✨
One of the reasons why I'm in healing work is so that I can create my week around being with Miss L (my almost 4 year old). I've spoken about the freedom I now have in terms of having created my creative week exactly as I desire, with creative and client time, and our 'Mama and Baby' days (something I never could have done working full time in a mundane job). This itself is, for me, enough of a reason to choose the career of being a healer.
*And* there's also the huge impact of me doing 'the work' that ripples out to our family - in that I can be more emotionally available for her, and be the role model I long to be. This is perhaps my deepest reason for choosing healing.
Before I chose the work I created a life of chaos, drama and dysregulation. I had strained relationships, where I'd blame and shame everyone else, fearing making a mistake. All innocently from my own wounding, yet I was creating life unconsciously from here. 💔
And directly because of choosing the work of self-healing with Archetypal Remedies, I've learned to change all of this, healing my wounds and creating a healthier, happier family dynamic. 🌹
When I'm more regulated in my body and nervous system, I am more able to be the magical Mama I long to be. 🤱🏼✨
I'll be honest, becoming a Mama was a huge portal of initiation for me. It blew my world apart, in every way. I didn't find it 'easy'. And so a huge part of my deep work has been learning to navigate being a Mama from soul, rather than how everyone says it 'should' be done.
I remember My Love going away for a week to LA for work in my early soul initiation and thinking I was going to 'fail' and not be able to cope. That week was a sheer testament to how this work has changed me life - because I thrived being able to look after her. I felt so powerful and so proud of the work I'd done to become the woman I am now.
From a place of slowing down, softening and being nourished myself, and being in the work of healing my own wounds, I am able to hold Miss L's big emotions and meltdowns, where once they would have triggered me.
Women so often say 'I can't invest in this work because my kids need xyz and I feel utterly selfish'. And in that, we miss the incredible investment that this work truly is for our whole family. We miss how healing ripples through our entire lives.
I've become a rolemodel for Miss L that I'm truly proud of and which impacts her whole life - directly because of the deep work I'm in (personal and ancestral self-healing) ongoing:
🌹 She is learning how to regulate her nervous system
🌹 She is learning to trust her own body wisdom
🌹 She knows her emotions are all welcome
🌹 She is learning how to make sovereign choices in life
🌹 She is learning how to care for her needs
🌹 She asks for rose petal baths as the norm
🌹 She knows magic and the beauty of the moon
🌹 She has adventures across the world
🌹 She's welcomed to be her true wild self
🌹 She's developing a relationship with nature that will guide her in future.
It's fair to say that the impact of me choosing the work is huge for my baby girl - and also our family as a unit.
I've even learned to cook - and enjoy it (for those of you who knew me 'before' my initiation, I know you won't believe it!)! 😉♥️
Choosing the work is the least 'self-indulgent' thing we can do: it's life-transforming for *all* of those we touch, and especially our families. It's the best investment I've ever made - and by far the biggest ever reward of it all.
I wonder, are you committed to the idea the healing work is selfish (if you are, that's welcome - *and* this path probably isn't a fit)? Or are you open to seeing all the ways it is the most important work of all?
All my love ♥️
