EP 51: How to Come Out of the Magical Closet

With Dane Tomas

On the Secret Witch Show today our guest is Dane Tomas. Dane is a fellow magical one, and in short is an Esoteric Entrepreneur, Rap Ritualist, and self-proclaimed Spiritual Smart-ass, who is also known as the ‘Dark Wizard.’ In this episode we explored the very popular question that most magical women have: how to come out of the magical closet.

In this episode we dived into some of the ways that we can begin to heal the self-expression wounding that often keeps the Secret Witch in the magical closet, hiding and shaming her gifts for the fear of being approved of, and the fear of being persecuted by the patriarchy. Dane so perfectly modelled in this episode what it is to be and speak loving truth - even to the most provocative of topics, including being projected on and branded an abusive cult leader (which he handles with such integrity) for being his full expression of his magical Dark Wizard archetype.

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

Magical healing really requires us to do shadow work and emotional body work and deconditioning - Dane advocates emotional clean up, reparenting and healing the nervous system as hugely important in our expansion
When we look at things through the magical lens, we are not subject to the outside world. The outside world is just “me looking back at me” - if I’m triggered, it’s a nice indication that there’s work to be done - and that can be done through ritual and an integral approach to magic
Whatever we look at is a reflection of us - for example, if you are triggered by the patriarchy, it’s helpful to remember that you are also the patriarchy! If you don’t like that, Dane’s advice is to stick with that for a month, and see what happens if you can integrate more ease - ie love yourself back to wholeness
When you’re coming out of the magical closet, people can project their stuff on you, and it can feel very hard. They get to have their projections - if you are out in the world being magical, people will have something to say on it; and it’s a great way to learn which of our wounds need to be healed. It’s also a great way to implement upgrades on some of the feedback and look at what is truly, honestly there for us.
We have to step out of the hope that everyone approves of us - and there are a lot of cultural pieces that are designed to keep women ‘agreeable’ and ‘nice’, so it really is a choice to move out of that
The best way to move into magical creation is to just keep taking baby steps that are in alignment with your soul - taking action towards what’s in your heart. A good question is “what could open up the possibility for that?”

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