How to embody the woman we desire to be... Powerful, magical 'adornment' 101 πβ¨
Letβs Talk βWitchy Boundariesβ
Iβm not your average Guide (the power of the witch)
Embracing the Fire: Liberating My Truth in a World That Fears Magic
Iβm done with mistrusting my heart
Which parts do you feel shame about and hide? π
I'm a different woman to who I was 10 years ago...
Why we do the work... Reason #4 Creative Power
βMy point is, it was only the "deep work" of real healing that helped me to own my inner Creatrix and learn to claim my feminine soft-power to create life differently and own my healing gifts. Before that, I felt powerless. Learning to *heal my power* was absolutely VITAL in helping me manifest life differently - and create a magical life as a healer.β
- Nicole Barton
Before I entered 'the work' I was living a busy, chaotic, mundane life, that I felt trapped in. I hear many of the women who feel the call to the 'deep work' of becoming a healer feeling the same, whilst simultaneously feeling that 'the work' is also 'non-essential' and 'self-indulgent". Both ideas which can stop us fully choosing it.
Why we do the work... Reason #3 Health
βI no longer suffer with any of the 'incurable' health challenges I had - no paralysed face, no chronic fatigue, no endometriosis, no chronic cystitis, no diabetes, no thyroid issues. Instead, the healing work has me energised, vital, and healthy. To me, that makes this the most *vital* and essential work of all. And the least selfish - because now I'm able to help others walk the same path and heal themselves, and go onto helping others the same way.β
- Nicole Barton
One of the things that came up for me - and that I hear come up for many women feeling - in the call of soul to the 'deep work' of becoming a healer is the idea that it's 'non-essential' and 'self-indulgent". Both ideas which can (innocently) stop us fully choosing it.
Why we do the work... Reason #2 Family
βChoosing the work is the least 'self-indulgent' thing we can do: it's life-transforming for *all* of those we touch, and especially our families. It's the best investment I've ever made - and by far the biggest ever reward of it all. β
- Nicole Barton
"Why we do the work" - Reason #2 - FAMILY π©ββ€οΈβπ¨π©πΌβπΌ
I often hear women fearing that the 'deep work' of becoming a healer will be judged as 'selfish' - and this can be something that stops us choosing it fully. Recently, I've been contemplating all the reasons the deep work of healing and becoming healers is actually necessary - (aka the very opposite) - and there are so many reasons.
Why we do the work... Reason #1: Freedom
Kindred Spirit Feature: Is it in your soulβs plan to be a healer?
βMy point of view is that our gifts can only be found in our wounds and we are only initiated into our soulβs plan through challenge. The fears and difficulties we experience in the healer journey are all part of the alchemy - though thatβs not how we are taught to see the world.β
~ Nicole Barton
We are so delighted to share a feature we curated for Kindred Spirit Magazine all around 3 unexpected signs it might be in your soul plan to be a healer ππΉβ¨β£
Phosphoric Woman
I used to channel poetry and today, out in the woods, She-Wolf had me reclaim this lost part of my soul expression... So....
Introducing my new poem, 'Phosphoric Woman'...
Sensitive woman,
You weren't born here to play 'small.'
You are made of Phosphoric fire and moons:
You are a beautiful, glorious, messy paradox
of roses and she-wolves.
Kindred Spirit Feature: How to work with Archetypal Remedies for Deep Self-Healing
βHighly sensitive and magical souls β who actually have the power to heal themselves (and are often the βsecret healersβ of the world) β often spend years seeking fixes externally, thinking they need others to heal them. In their feelings of brokenness, they begin to innocently βoutsourceβ their healing power..β
~ Nicole Barton
We are so delighted to share a feature we curated for Kindred Spirit Magazine all around how to work with Archetypal Remedies for Deep Self-Healing ππΊπΉβ¨β£
Do you dare to dream your wild dreams? πΊ
βBone by bone, hair by hair, Wild Woman comes back. Through night dreams, through events half understood and half remembered...β
~ Clarissa Pinkola EstΓ©s, Women Who Run With the Wolves
Years ago, I was not living my unapologetic wildest dreams and desires as a healer. I didn't even resonate with the idea of being βwildβ (quite honestly, the idea terrified me).
There were lost pieces of my wild soul, wounded and shattered, hidden out of sight in my βshadow bagβ of wounding, that Iβd suppressed and shoved behind me, never to be seen again.
Secretly, I deeply feared *rejection* and I felt *unworthy* - inside and out. I was full of shame.
Do you feel βselfishβ for honouring your soul? Your invitationβ¦
βIt may be the first day of your life, the prime of youth or several decades in, when Medicine Woman calls you. Your name on her list. Her new initiate. She crept in whilst you were sleeping, when you over-exerted, when you kissed him, or ate that, or lived there or pushed too hard just one time too many. She crept in and curled up in your cells, your heart, waiting to meet you. Longing to know you. Longing for you to know her, at lastβ¦. (Lucy Pearce)
Is it time to βre-motherβ yourself and reclaim the real you?
βAnd the real medicine is learning to love those aspects of ourselves back home, and welcome the parts of ourselves that we have shamed and judged and rejected (aka to βself-healβ). β
- Nicole Barton
Hello, sensitive one,
Do you ever feel the deep fear and shame at the idea of peeling back your mask and revealing your authentic self? And does that stop you fully opening to your healing gifts? Perhaps you fear βwhat will my partner think? What will my friends think? What will my parents think, if I open to a more magical, meaningful purpose?β.
I so feel your heart, beauty - and I know how tender it can be to even open to a journey of reclaiming our true, authentic selves, when weβve spent years βfitting inβ.. Your scared heart is so welcome here.
I remember a time when I simultaneously deeply longed to follow the nudges of a deeper soul calling I had to a more meaningful purpose and life, yet deeply resisted opening to my gifts as a healer, because I felt that my deep sensitivity, my natural (βwooβ) self and my true emotions were βtoo muchβ and would be rejected and shamed - by my family, friends or anyone who I told.
What will people think of me if I open to becoming a healer? What if people judge me?
βMy point of view is that what it really means when we have some fears is that we are just on the cusp of actually beginning to see what IS true for us - and that thereβs just a bit more healing to do - of our wounded inner healer (who fears losing approval, bless her heart). Itβs really just a deeper call into healing ourselves (which is what our Archetypal Apothecary modality is all about - especially the first layer of SELF - OR βSOULβ - HEALING). β
- Nicole Barton
One of the deep fears that the beautiful, sensitive women who are called to journey with Archetypal Lupa is that they find themselves stuck in wondering:
βWhat will people think of me if I become a healer? What if people judge me? Can I really do this?β
And oh my heart, I so feel you in this one, if this is you, beauty. I know how the fear of losing a p p r o v a l can stop us from even βaccessingβ our deeper wisdom and wilder dreams and yearnings for a more meaningful life, living our soul purpose.
How She-Wolf helped me open to my gifts as a healer through the fear of rejection and losing approvalβ¦ πΊ
βArchetypal Lupa - or She-Wolf - offers an energetic βpermission slipβ to be our true, authentic selves. To begin to reclaim the parts of our soul that have been lost to this wounding of βnot enoughnessβ - the fear of judgement and rejection, the fear of being βoutcastβ as a lone wolf, especially for being our true selves. β
- Nicole Barton
Oh, how I know you may resist that label of βwildβ (maybe itβs terrifying) - and maybe it also somewhat excites you too, deep downβ¦
I so feel your heart, because that was once me. I was contemplating the other day, how I used to feel totally the opposite of βwildβ - I felt caged, trapped and contained, not βfreeβ and βfully expressedβ. I felt stuck in a dull, grey mundane life - a life I just didnβt feel fulfilled in. I see now, I was the Archetypal βGood Girlβ; I lived my life in fear of judgement and rejection, seeking approval, sticking close to the conditioning that βsuccessβ looked a certain way, and that I had to βfit intoβ that. And, in contorting myself this way, I dishonoured my βNoβ and shoved down and shamed my true authentic self-expression, keeping myself small.
Of course, I knew somewhere, deep down, that I had βwildβ emotions - sometimes rage or deep emotional outbursts - but I shamed these βwild emotionsβ as βtoo muchβ (whilst feeling βnot enoughβ) - feeling like the βweirdβ one, who couldnβt just be βnormalβ like everyone else and contain my raw feelings.